Size Acceptance and the Curvy Woman
Just because you have curves and you’re bigger than your friends, there’s nothing wrong with that; it’s not a sin. A lot of controversy still surrounds the topic of being ‘plus sized’, but irrespective of this, having curves is womanly and feminine and certainly not your fault.
So, God has gifted you with enough curves to give the rest of the ‘curvy’ women out there a run for their money, but so what? It’s a gift and you should be proud of your gorgeous figure. It’s time to embrace your curves and love your body instead of shrouding them in embarrassment and baggy clothes.
So you’re not a size zero, does it really matter? Just because you’re not the same size as your friends it doesn’t mean that you’re not beautiful and smart. You need to remember that you’re beautiful. You’re you no matter what your size is.
Of course accepting yourself and showing self-confidence and love is easier said than done, especially if you’ve always been down on yourself. But you also need to remember that as soon as you make the decision to take the first step towards loving yourself and accepting your size, everything else will naturally follow without too much effort.
The Stigma of Being Plus-Sized
There are a lot of negative connotations attached to being ‘plus sized.’ These negative connotations create negative thoughts, and those of you who’re considered to be plus sized can probably list all the downsides of being a little bit curvier than the average woman. With these negative thoughts come a number of worries and questions related to being a plus size woman.
There’s the idea that being bigger than average directly affects your health. There are concerns about fertility, pregnancy, and regular menstrual cycles to name a few.
There’s also the issue of diets and the plus size woman. There’s the idea that women, who fall into the category of plus size, diet more than those women who’re considered to have a ‘normal’ size. Then of course, there’s the other question – can diets really help plus size people lose weight?
Plus size women are more emotional, or that’s what the generalisation is anyhow. There’s the wide misconception that bigger women are plagued with more emotional worries than their thinner counterparts, because according to the media and the rest of the world, a thin woman doesn’t have any need to have body hang-ups or insecurities.
The truth is that none of the above issues are specifically ‘plus size’ related. Smaller and thinner women also have their own problems whether they’re health, psychological or body hang-ups – this is what it means to be a human!
Recently, there’s been a lot of excitement in the air in the fashion world. There’s been an attitude overhaul and designers are taking every body type into consideration. So, what’s the result? There are voluptuous beautiful women just like you strutting their stuff down the catwalk, they’re showing the world that big can be beautiful.
It’s clear that the world’s turning a corner and there is less of a stigma about body size. So, if the rest of world (including the somewhat critical fashion designers) are embracing curves, you should be too!
Look within. It may sound cheesy and cliché, but your size and body aren’t the only things that make you. You know too well that there’s a lot more to a person than just their looks. You’d most likely be one of the first people to tell your friend this if they were going through the same thing, so practice what you preach. As soon as you stop being nervous or anxious about your size, you’ll feel a million times better about yourself.
Explore new avenues. Get out and try new things. One of the best ways to forget about your self-consciousness and stress is to replace it with a new-found confidence by trying new things. Make it your mission to give new things a go. It doesn’t matter how big or small they are. They could include things such as activities, sports, hobbies, dating, or even a new style.
Ditch the dieting. When you aim for sizes, you’re encouraging compulsive eating behaviour. Dieting can be more harmful to your health and mental state in the long run, especially if you let it rule your life. The way to get around this is to create healthy eating patterns. Change your lifestyle, and work towards being healthy instead of being super slim.
Surround yourself with positive people. It’s the same old story. If you surround yourself with people who aren’t obsessed with their size or other people’s sizes, you’ll feel a lot better. When you spend more time with people who appreciate you for you then you won’t feel like you have to be someone else. Distance yourself from negative people or those who make you feel less of a person.
Exercise for fun. It may be a strange concept to you, but exercising can be fun. When you look at exercise as a way of releasing stress and getting healthy, your attitude will change and you’ll see that both your body and psyche will benefit from it.
At the end of the day your size does not determine the woman you are. You’re a wonderful and beautiful woman and you’ve got to remember it. Every woman is different and instead of feeling like you’ve been cursed, act like you’ve been blessed because there are many gorgeous curvaceous women out there who’re proud of their plus size status, so rock it!